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mrs. dress-up
i never do this, but, trigger warning: this article literally made dom throw up! grotesque mockery of both disabled and trans people + disrespect for the mentally ill

the reason i'm sharing this is because it just evoked a need to rant. dom's response was sadness and shock. mine is a volcanic kind of anger that needs to be released. so i'm going to rant, but consider the above warning. i don't think you should read that article, although you can if you want to. i'm just saying that i need to unleash the demons it stirs up in me, or something very bad is going to happen.

i was hoping this was a bad joke (it is the daily fail, after all), but a quick check of the internets has multiple, credible sources for the story.

this person is insulting the real struggles of disabled and trans people. she wears a disability like it's a favourite outfit, taking it off when she wants to go skiing. and she uses the cultural idioms of the trans movement as cover for her sickening cosplay.

she has the financial resources to indulge her fantasies, but won't use them to get the ongoing psychiatric help she obviously needs. (and fuck that quack she went to who said the solution was for her to get a wheelchair.)

the article [which reads more like a press release] refers to her having the "courage" to go out in public in her wheelchair and talk about how she is indulging her own delusions. screw that. david berkowitz was not being courageous when he acted on instructions his disordered brain convinced him were coming from the neighbour's dog. courage would be confronting her mental illness and dealing with it by getting help. courage would be acknowledging that disabled people and trans people face huge obstacles that they don't choose and that her longing to have their struggles foisted on her voluntarily is an indication of a serious problem with the workings of her mind. courage would be speaking out about the incredibly frightening forms that mental illness can take.

as someone who's studied a lot about mental illness, i wonder how deeply any of her oddly acquiescent doctors have explored the possibility that her dissociative disorder stems from a profound desire to abdicate responsibility and be taken care of entirely by others. haven't we all met people who try to outright force or manipulate others into believing that they are helpless and require outside assistance for every task? and, if that sort of malingering is profound enough, doesn't it constitute a disorder that requires correction? yes, it does.

i don't care if this woman succeeds in crippling herself. but I do care that she could ever be considered an advocate for the disabled, for trans people or for the mentally ill. regardless of whether or not she lives out her dream, if she refuses to get help for her real problems, i hope that she dies alone and miserable.


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i keep seeing this ad for tictac candies:

am i the only one who finds the suicide bomber clown at the end a little unnerving? all the nice natural things like the bunny and the [extinct] woolly mammoth and the fruit get devoured by a trying-to-appear-nonthreatening-but-obviously-psychotic clown who then blows himself up. congratulations, tictac, i think this ad has landed you on about a dozen watch lists.

oh and by the way, showing me that your product will somehow cause my stomach to explode in a rainbow of wtf makes me believe that doing consuming tictacs would be a worse dietary decision than the time i ate two raw eggs and a half a bottle of hot sauce on a dare.

mental health mondays :: where even the depressed ones are happy

this past week saw the publication of the annual world happiness report, a look at nations around the world and how people in each of them feel about their lot in life. i started following this a few years ago, and this year it occurred to me that it would be fun to look at how the happy places compared to the crazy places. i mean, what if those countries aren't really all that happy, but just have an extremely high rate of psychotic/ delusional disorders?

so, i set to work putting together a comparison. as it happens, that's a bit trickier than it sounds, because information on any kind of disability is more difficult to come by than you might think. and no type of disability is more controversial than a mental illness, which means that there are even more complications around definitions, seeking treatment, prognoses, record-keeping... it's hard to tell how reliable anything you're looking at is. [not that there aren't some good sources.]

and what sources there …

making faces :: soft touch

ah winter, how my lips hate you. it's too bad, really, because the rest of me likes winter, down to about -12 or so. but there's no arguing that i get dried out. nuxe rĂªve de miel is my super best friend at this time of year, even more so than otherwise. [i gave bite's agave lip mask a try only to find out i'm allergic to something in it.] but our [still] new apartment is somewhat drier than the old one [electric vs hot water heating], which meant that, for a long stretch, virtually every kind of lipstick was uncomfortable. the horror. [i wrote a post a while back about the formulas that are friendliest to chapped lips.]

faced with this dilemma, i decided to try something not exactly new, but [for me], out of the ordinary: being a gloss girl. now, i don't mind glosses. i buy them from time to time, and i used to buy more until i discovered that i just wasn't using them near enough to justify the continued purchases. my issues with glosses are that they feather…